Martin's BlogIf a man wants to improve his life, he must remember these seven pieces of advice.
First: Never get entangled long-term with someone who is obviously unworthy of you and drains you. If a person consistently demeans themselves over time, they often end up being treated the same way. Learn to respect yourself and cut your losses in time.
Second: When engaging with others in a game of wits, since you’re in the competition, don’t be so soft-hearted that you lose your sense of boundaries. Have principles and bottom lines, letting the other person know you have the ability to fight back and protect yourself. Don’t strike easily in ordinary times, but stand firm when it matters.
Third: Your demeanor as a person can be gentle, but your methods must carry strength. Be polite to others and express kindness in daily interactions, but on matters of principle, have the courage to turn hostile and the ability to hold your ground.
Fourth: Good opportunities won’t easily come your way, and valuable resources often aren’t flashy. When facing choices, stay discerning—don’t be easily swayed by packaging or appearances, and avoid stepping into traps.
Fifth: Stay away from people with rigid mindsets, extreme emotions, and poor communication skills. Such individuals are often stubborn, self-centered, and lack the ability to reflect; they can easily harm others and themselves.
Sixth: Don’t easily cast yourself as a “savior.” Over-involving yourself in others’ problems often brings extra trouble and depletion. Everyone has their own choices and consequences—maintaining boundaries is crucial.
Seventh: Steer clear of those who chronically can’t distinguish right from wrong and refuse to reflect. Such people tend to externalize problems and shift blame to others; prolonged interaction will severely drain your quality of life. Choosing who surrounds you is, at its core, choosing your living environment.